Wed 07:03:11 PM EST Dec 7 Emerald Mistress . . . *steps in.. finds a place to be seated and waits*
Wed 07:04:08 PM EST Dec 7 Sapphic Jewel . . . steps in as well....finds My old chair..dusts it off...and sits and waits along with Emmy....*s*
Wed 07:06:06 PM EST Dec 7 Emerald Mistress . . . *softly smile*.. hello Jewel Love..
Wed 07:07:08 PM EST Dec 7 Emerald Mistress . . . I'm hoping we will get things going...shortly Love.. just waiting for more to join Us and Scarlet is one Her way
Wed 07:07:15 PM EST Dec 7 Sapphic Jewel . . . hi Emmy....You are looking particulary fetching this evening...*s*
Wed 07:08:15 PM EST Dec 7 Scarlet~ . . . ~steps in and takes My place and sits~
Good evening Emmy and Jewel ~soft smile~
Wed 07:09:01 PM EST Dec 7 Sapphic Jewel . . . hi Scarlet...*s*
Wed 07:09:03 PM EST Dec 7 Emerald Mistress . . . *softly smiles*.. thank You Love.. I uhmm.. well..* bites fang into lip*...I've had a lovely Evening *looking to One Holding Me in the shadows*
Wed 07:09:54 PM EST Dec 7 Sapphic Jewel . . . chuckling...yeah I know.....I was lurking.....
Wed 07:09:57 PM EST Dec 7 Emerald Mistress . . . *warm smile*.. welcome Scarlet...Ms. Group Leader *winks*
Wed 07:10:17 PM EST Dec 7 Emerald Mistress . . . *blushes*
Wed 07:12:12 PM EST Dec 7 Scarlet~ . . . ~winks back to Emmy and taps My Prefects badge from schooldays~ ~grins~
Wed 07:13:28 PM EST Dec 7 Scarlet~ . . . ~shuffles papers~
Wed 07:14:09 PM EST Dec 7 Emerald Mistress . . . *smiles*.. Thank You Jewel for Coming.. I know this One is kinda off the cuff....
Wed 07:15:07 PM EST Dec 7 Sapphic Jewel . . . always glad to lend a hand...so to speak.....*grin*..and You are welcome Em....*s*
Wed 07:16:51 PM EST Dec 7 Scarlet~ . . . Ok, just before We begin I need to post The Forum Rules and Rules of Conduct. These are in place to help maintain a genial air for any discussion ~smiles~
Wed 07:17:40 PM EST Dec 7 Emerald Mistress . . . *settles back and listens*
Wed 07:16:27 PM EST Dec 7 Longing*** . . . Ok its midnight here and I have to be up at 6 and am drained of blood (winks to One) so must sleep, but if its possible to get a copy of the minutes Id be greatful and think Em wouldnt mind sending them to Me
-Good night to Ye all and I hope Ye have as fufilling evening as it promises to be
Wed 07:16:44 PM EST Dec 7 Scarlet~ . . .
Forum Rules and Rules of Conduct
This is a forum for Dominants. Submissives’ and S/switches are to observe only, as the same courtesy will be extended by Dominants during their forums.
1. Courtesy is expected of All guests here, at All times.
2. We expect you to maintain an air of civility when posting in the room. Remember that Everyone may have an opinion but that does not necessarily make Them an Asshole if They may disagree with You. Disagreeing AGREEABLY is the goal for any conflicts of opinion that occur.
3. Please, however strongly You may feel about a particular topic, try not to domineer the room with Your views. We can learn much by LISTENING to Others, digesting thoughts and then commenting.
4. If the current topic is of no interest to You then We respectfully request that You do not post negative commentary or attempt to disrupt. To do so will result in You being asked to leave for the duration of the discussion.
5. In the event of a Guest Speaker being present then the structure of the latter will apply, and will be subject to further modification as necessary to accommodate.
6. The standard customs and protocols of the Room, with the addition of the above, stand as laid out by Mistress Beauty.
Wed 07:20:00 PM EST Dec 7 Sapphic Jewel . . . night Longing...sleep well...*s*
Wed 07:20:51 PM EST Dec 7 Emerald Mistress . . . *soft smile*.. Yea My Love.. I will.. *smiles as I hear the request Load and clear..* winks*
Wed 07:21:58 PM EST Dec 7 Scarlet~ . . . Goodnight Longing, sleep well ~smiles and winks~
So, without further ado, this evenings forum is more along a meet & greet, and an opportunity to put forward any thoughts and ideas You may have of future topics You’d like to discuss or indeed learn from. ~soft smile~
The floor is open .......
Wed 07:23:39 PM EST Dec 7 Emerald Mistress . . . *reads and nods*.. sounds fair enough Scarlet..
Wed 07:24:45 PM EST Dec 7 Sapphic Jewel . . . reading the rules....
Wed 07:26:08 PM EST Dec 7 Sapphic Jewel . . . thinking a good topic might be....Is it hard being a Dominant?
Wed 07:26:19 PM EST Dec 7 Emerald Mistress . . . Yes!!!
Wed 07:26:23 PM EST Dec 7 Emerald Mistress . . . LOL
Wed 07:26:36 PM EST Dec 7 Sapphic Jewel . . . LOL
Wed 07:26:43 PM EST Dec 7 Scarlet~ . . . ~grins~
Wed 07:26:45 PM EST Dec 7 Emerald Mistress . . . *soft smile*.. sorry that was just a gut reply
Wed 07:27:01 PM EST Dec 7 Sapphic Jewel . . . Scarlet and I were discussing that earlier.....
Wed 07:27:14 PM EST Dec 7 Sapphic Jewel . . . its true
Wed 07:27:16 PM EST Dec 7 Scarlet~ . . . ~thinks this could end up being just a giggle fest.........teasing wink~
Wed 07:27:36 PM EST Dec 7 Sapphic Jewel . . . Is it easier to be a submissive than a dominat?
Wed 07:28:05 PM EST Dec 7 Sapphic Jewel . . . tosses an "n" up there in dominant
Wed 07:28:27 PM EST Dec 7 Emerald Mistress . . . seriously though....
I am well aware that it's not all about the Dominant.. but I think there are times when the submissives feel We have it easy and that's just not so...
Wed 07:29:21 PM EST Dec 7 Sapphic Jewel . . . that is so very true Emmy...it isnt easy being the One....
Wed 07:29:37 PM EST Dec 7 Scarlet~ . . . ~writes this down as a future topic~
Wed 07:30:46 PM EST Dec 7 Emerald Mistress . . .
I'm not saying I'm complaining, I'm not.. just .. well there are times when I think submissive forget that we are just people too and We not only take into account their needs but Ours
Wed 07:32:22 PM EST Dec 7 Scarlet~ . . . ~listens a moment~ funnily enough what's been said so far takes into account 2 topics I have set up for next year and they are:
My, Myself and I – How important is “Me” time?
Top Drop - Have You ever experienced such a thing? If so how did You cope with it? Would You be able to recognise the signs again? How did You communicate with Your submissive? Did You take a “time-out” and focus just on You?
Wed 07:32:34 PM EST Dec 7 Sapphic Jewel . . . agrees with Emmy very much....
remembers when I was a sub...and I used to think that a Dom/me had all the answers....lol...finding out...the answers were in me really......
Wed 07:33:12 PM EST Dec 7 Sapphic Jewel . . . what is Top Drop...never heard this term before
Wed 07:33:19 PM EST Dec 7 Emerald Mistress . . .
and to think of those Dominants that have more than one submissive....???
Wed 07:35:01 PM EST Dec 7 Sapphic Jewel . . . more than one....omg....lol
Wed 07:36:10 PM EST Dec 7 Emerald Mistress . . .
I thinks another we could bring up is the collaring issue
to collar or not....
Wed 07:36:59 PM EST Dec 7 Sapphic Jewel . . . ahh good one Emmy.....and the difference in those collars...
Wed 07:37:05 PM EST Dec 7 Scarlet~ . . . ~making notes~ I'd also like to take this opportunity to show a few other topics. As You will see I have expanded on the headers to help prompt thoughts and questions ~smiles~ as I have a want to do during discussions ~grins~
Assignments – do You set assignments? If so are they physical rt or reading/ learning assignments? Do You ever research beforehand? What do You learn from completed assignments? Do You use assignments to “buy Yourself a little Me time”?
Wed 07:37:26 PM EST Dec 7 Scarlet~ . . .
Limits are Limitless – agree or disagree? Many times We ask about limits and have Our own, but just how closely do We look at limits? Have You ever been caught suddenly off guard when a submissive has stated something is to be considered a limit and yet You have not been aware during negotiation/ general communication? How do You handle soft limits? Do You respect hard limits ? Would You truly ever push Your own limits as You might a submissives’?
Wed 07:37:54 PM EST Dec 7 Sapphic Jewel . . . chuckling as I read the last one.....
Wed 07:38:16 PM EST Dec 7 Darkson Blackheart . . . How about a Topic that brings up the differences between a Top/bottom relationship and a D/s one
Wed 07:38:44 PM EST Dec 7 Emerald Mistress . . .
well not so much the difference...
but more or less is it needed?? is it a trinket?? or can a collar be held internally?
Wed 07:38:46 PM EST Dec 7 Sapphic Jewel . . . very good topics Scarlet....very good....c&p's these for later....
Wed 07:38:47 PM EST Dec 7 Scarlet~ . . . ~hears Emmy and writes that one down~
Wed 07:39:20 PM EST Dec 7 Sapphic Jewel . . . good one Darkson.....and welcome...*s*
Wed 07:39:34 PM EST Dec 7 Ronin . . .
*enters to listen, nodding apologies for lateness*
Wed 07:39:35 PM EST Dec 7 Emerald Mistress . . . *nods and smiles*.. Great to see You Darkson...
Yes that is a good topic as well
Wed 07:39:40 PM EST Dec 7 Scarlet~ . . . Great to see You Darkson ~bright smile~
I like that topic ~nodnod....scribbles that one down too~
Wed 07:40:23 PM EST Dec 7 Sapphic Jewel . . . hi Ronin...*s*
Wed 07:40:37 PM EST Dec 7 Emerald Mistress . . . *bright smile*....better late than never Ronin..*sends a hugs to both Him and Darkson*
Wed 07:40:39 PM EST Dec 7 Ronin . . .
'Lo Sapphic Jewel *smiles*
Wed 07:41:29 PM EST Dec 7 Scarlet~ . . . Good evening Mr Ronin ~grins~
Wed 07:41:50 PM EST Dec 7 Sapphic Jewel . . . sorry...RT....back in a few I hope.....gone on post
Wed 07:41:55 PM EST Dec 7 Ronin . . .
Mizzzz Scarlet. *grins*
Wed 07:41:59 PM EST Dec 7 Emerald Mistress . . . what kind of Guest speakers have You thought of getting Scarlet?
Wed 07:45:43 PM EST Dec 7 Scarlet~ . . . hurry back Jewel ~soft smile~
Ok, as to Guest Speakers, well there are a few options available. I am aiming to bring online an rt Dominant that actually trains couples, and if not successful with Him then My contingency plan is to bring online or have something prepared from a Domme who owns and runs an rt club as She is incredibly experienced. As well as Them Ialso aim in trying to coax some 'names' from the USA.
Of course this may take time and in the interim I know We have some incredible Dominants both in knowledge and experience rt and vt within the Castle, and as such will be making approaches and inviting Them to speak on a subject of Thier choice.
Wed 07:51:44 PM EST Dec 7 Darkson Blackheart . . . Sorry...I am a bit in and out...........Greetings to everyone
Wed 07:51:46 PM EST Dec 7 Scarlet~ . . . ~waits for Emmy to get back online.......soft chuckle~
Wed 07:52:20 PM EST Dec 7 Scarlet~ . . . welcome back Darkson ~soft smile~
Any more ideas at all ? They are truly welcome ~nods~
Wed 07:54:28 PM EST Dec 7 ~Inquisitioner . . . Well, just color Me late...(circumstances beyond control)
Good evening Everyone...
Wed 07:54:54 PM EST Dec 7 Darkson Blackheart . . . What about a talk on the psychological side of things........developing and maintaining a mindset??
Wed 07:56:16 PM EST Dec 7 ~Inquisitioner . . . Are there discussions presently underway...or tossing round ideas for discussion?
*a bit behind as I just arrived*
Wed 07:56:48 PM EST Dec 7 Scarlet~ . . . Welcome Inquisitioner ~soft smile~ Please do settle and take a moment to catch up
Aaaah now a there's a topic Darkson ~nods~ the psychological aspects....
~writes it down~
Wed 07:57:07 PM EST Dec 7 ~Inquisitioner . . . Hello Scarlet...~s~
Wed 07:57:41 PM EST Dec 7 Scarlet~ . . . If You scroll back Inquisitioner then You'll see the Rules of Conduct and then a few ideas for topics as well as a mfew I have already set for next year ~smiles~
Wed 07:58:50 PM EST Dec 7 ~Inquisitioner . . . Perhaps a discussion regarding the fragile nature of online D/s relationships, in part due to the anonimity this medium provides ...problems that can and do arise...and how One deals with those issues...
Wed 07:59:05 PM EST Dec 7 ~Inquisitioner . . . Will do Scarlet...
Wed 07:59:45 PM EST Dec 7 Darkson Blackheart . . . punishments.........VT/RT.........Hows, Whys and what punishments genrally get what types of results
what results are you looking for from your punishments??
Wed 08:01:41 PM EST Dec 7 ~Inquisitioner . . . ~have read the rules...and protocols~
Several excellent topics suggested already.
Wed 08:03:12 PM EST Dec 7 Scarlet~ . . . ~sits scribbling and smiling~
Wed 08:03:43 PM EST Dec 7 Emerald Mistress . . . *smiles*...sorry sorry.. system Crashed again..* retakes My seat*
Wed 08:03:59 PM EST Dec 7 ~Inquisitioner . . . Evening EM...~s~
Wed 08:04:00 PM EST Dec 7 Scarlet~ . . . these are great Guys, just keep them a comin' ~grins~
Wed 08:04:15 PM EST Dec 7 Darkson Blackheart . . . submissive or slave??
the differences between the two and what are you looking for in your relationships??
How do you tell what you have in yours??
and how do you bring them where you or they want them to be??
Wed 08:04:32 PM EST Dec 7 Emerald Mistress . . . *soft smile*.. hello Inquisitioner.. I'm glad You came..
Wed 08:05:08 PM EST Dec 7 ~Inquisitioner . . . Darkson Blackheart...I think the punishment issue is a very good one...especially in a v/t environment...
Wed 08:05:27 PM EST Dec 7 ~Inquisitioner . . . I'm very glad to be here M'Lady...~s~
Wed 08:09:11 PM EST Dec 7 Scarlet~ . . . Welcome back Emmy ~winks and picks off a piece of moatweed~ Mmmmmm seems You're colour co-ordinated in Your 'accessories' this evening ~grins~
~and sets back to scribbling~
Wed 08:09:57 PM EST Dec 7 Emerald Mistress . . . *just shakes head*.. so can get this abuse any place..LOL..
Wed 08:12:23 PM EST Dec 7 Darkson Blackheart . . . Trust, Honesty and Communication..........beyond the scene.........a practice of everyday life in the D/s relationship
How to build the foundation and maintain them throughout
Wed 08:15:10 PM EST Dec 7 Scarlet~ . . . ~nodding as I write..........pausing for thought and adding in a little something extra to the last topic from Darkson with a smile~
Wed 08:15:48 PM EST Dec 7 Emerald Mistress . . . *soft voice*.. well I think this was actually a nice meeting, even for an off the cuff.. I think after this we have a general idea what we are looking at here..
now this is a once a month Meeting....I won't be around next month, but...I will do what I can to see if Beauty will post a recap or minutes for those missing meetings so folks can get caught up....
Thank You again for coming in and joining tonight all
and............
****Huge Hug***** thank You Scarlet for putting so much effort and work into Our FIRST TOP Dom/me Support Group Meeting... (stands and claps for Madame President..)*inside joke*
Wed 08:16:25 PM EST Dec 7 Emerald Mistress . . . this isn't a cut off...I'm not pushing any out.. but just wanted all to know that is was great to have the support in here for this tonight...
Wed 08:21:38 PM EST Dec 7 Scarlet~ . . . gotta just lurve dem Emmy hugs ~grins and winks~
I think this has been really good and certainly given food for thought ~warm smile~ and I have taken note of every single idea put forward and will endeavour to incorporate them into a session for next year.
My thanks Emmy, and the temporarily absent Jewel ~warm smile~ and also to Darkson, Ronin and to You too Inquisitioner for dropping by and basically joining in ~soft warm smile~